SD, I don't really think the man will every TRULY be able to open up about his feelings. Its really hard to gage a R with someone that's so bottle up about his feelings with their S but seems to have NO problem at all talking about them with strange women.....
Just a quick post~
I actually think it's easier to open up to strangers, because their opinion of you doesn't matter as much. Women place so much importance on intimacy and feelings...it's the way we feel close to others, but for men it's physical. Feelings are...scary? Embarrassing? Risky?
So, if your H opens up to Sleezy Sue and she thinks he's weird/stupid/wimpy because of what he says, he can think, "Ah, well, her opinion doesn't matter...she's easy anyway."
Does that make sense? I'd say your opinion matters to him. Which doesn't make it any easier to have him be the way he is. My H is a "feeler," but he won't be direct about anything that's bugging him, which is equally maddening, especially since holding onto things is one of the main reasons we ever went down this path in the first place! :-)
Enjoy your D11's return!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
