Nahh, she knows that's not true because I'd already talked about letting the kids have "They Cook Saturday Night" for that night. S-almost-10 got a Kid Cookbook for Xmas last year -- he's totally into Iron Chef and Anthony Bourdain for some reason, LOL -- and keeps bugging me to let him do some of the recipes. He'd mentioned it to her as something to do at her house, and she said (correctly) she knows nothing about the kitchen, so maybe that was a better Dad-and-him activity. So I'd already said I might start it next Sat nite, so that trick is a non-starter.
It's one thing to be "mysterious," quite another to lie.
Nahh, she knows that's not true because I'd already talked about letting the kids have "They Cook Saturday Night" for that night. S-almost-10 got a Kid Cookbook for Xmas last year -- he's totally into Iron Chef and Anthony Bourdain for some reason, LOL -- and keeps bugging me to let him do some of the recipes. He'd mentioned it to her as something to do at her house, and she said (correctly) she knows nothing about the kitchen, so maybe that was a better Dad-and-him activity. So I'd already said I might start it next Sat nite, so that trick is a non-starter.
It's one thing to be "mysterious," quite another to lie.
That is plans SP...just because they're kids doesn't mean you can break your plans with them.
Also, it could be a "doing *something* date" like I was talking about on (I think; heh) Thinker's thread. Not much room to talk about r. stuff in the kitchen with paprika strewn hither and yon. It *could* be good; depends partly on how you both interact with the kids when something frustrating/messy/chaotic is unfolding.....
I love that your kidlet wants to chef up; that is just too cool. And big dad points to you for makin' it happen.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
BTW, my son was always into cooking. In first grade he decided he wanted to make sushi, so we bought the rolling things, and I videotaped him making sushi and talking to the audience like one of the chefs on tv. Now he is in college studying hospitality and taking real cooking classes.
I'm with A&K, Kett and Sara on this. You made plans with S9. He's expecting it. Invite her to join you and wing it from there. Then you can decide how friend-y feels right. Trust your Mojo.
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But it's odd. The DB challenge of taking responsibility for yourself really seems to make the Other's unwillingness to do the same stand out in high relief.
Yes, Yes, and Yes
Which then makes you want to switch from focusing on yourself to trying to get the other person to focus on themselves...
...which brings us back to square 1.
Been wondering that myself - when do you reach a point (if ever) where you can't just keep focusing on yourself. Where you can't move forward and improve things by yourself any more without the other person making at least some effort.
Reminder to self...Focus on Yourself
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
I'm with A&K, Kett and Sara on this. You made plans with S9. He's expecting it. Invite her to join you and wing it from there. Then you can decide how friend-y feels right. Trust your Mojo.
I'll jump on this wagon as well. Invite her to join you all, if she will.
If she has never been big in the kitchen, what would happen if you were prepared for it, and plopped her right in the middle of the action - a spot between the kids, a define task, a fun apron, etc.
Your first post seemed to say you were hesitant of the contact because of the way she might be using it to prepare you for the MC which is just a way to prepare you for seeing the financial arguments her way. In this case, I still say to go forward with it, just be prepared. The contact and the "preparation" cuts both ways.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
