It sounds like you've changed your stance on this somewhat already .... but I just wanted to point out that, according to the Gospels, Jesus *rarely* hesitated to call a spade a spade whether dealing with friends or foes. Anyone who sees fit to address a beloved follower as Satan under provocation certainly didn't suffer from undue mealiemouthedness. Not to mention all the "hypocrites" and "offsprings of vipers". Obviously, I'm being extreme to make a point ... there are so many examples of his compassion and patience with stupidity as well .... I'm just sayin'. He clearly wasn't afraid to call it as he saw it.
Thanks Kettricken. It helps to hear that. It's against my nature to say anything to my wife that I know will hurt her, but in an EA situation, I guess tough love is mandatory.
it isn't even so much "tough love" as refusing to buy into their delusion, denial, and projections. you don't have to wave it in her face, necessarily, but not backing down from the truth when it's presented is empowering. to this day, H refuses to acknowledge to me that there's an OW, and we're now divorced and D13 has to deal with her. it's a very bizarre set of mental gymnastics.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
