he was back, i think

[mdoodles]

do u think its better to report her sooner rather than later? i dont know that i can get there today, but do u think its most important that i have someone watch my son so that i can?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

With as often as she's harassing you, I'd say it really doesn't matter when you do it.

Puppy

[mdoodles]

just got back, took care of what i needed to. will take alittle time, some records need to be retrieved but i will receive an order of protection for myself and my son.

crazy huh?

[bluerain]

I wonder if her coming and harrasssing an american citizen is going to stand in the way of her INS paperwork? It seems like she wouldnt be a very good candidate for citizenship... It will be interesting to see how it plays out.

Doodles, I think that you made the right call. I dont think that her having to deal with the police and explain herself will give her what I would call satisfaction. And you need to stand up for yourself, shes bullying you and thats not acceptable.

[lost-n-Iowa]

doodles,

I think that you did the right thing by taking what she is doing to the police. You should not have to live with someone doing those things to you just because their is something seriously wrong inside that person's head. To tell YOU to stop calling YOUR husband???? That is just the psycho OW listening to the voices in her head!!

You are on the right track. You are moving forward with the immediate things that need to be dealt with, i.e. a place to live, bills, your son, and the support. Feel good about your self with the things that you have acheived so far.

[mdoodles]

thanks. if she does really get arrested and charged with a misdeanor, it will certainly affect her status here.

thats not my problem. or my fault. she brought this on herself.

[dolphin_05]

Hi mdoodles,

Just to say I am thinking of you. This is really difficult for you

Cas

[mdoodles]

thanks, i am dealing with alot!

i have to say, going to speak with the detective yesterday, it was rather bittersweet. i have spent so much time with my good friend conjuring things up, learning about this girl when i first discovered about her.

and gee, now, i needed all of that information!

its all hard, its hard that i must file for support through the famiyl court, its not going to stay friendly.

or who knows, reality will hit him and he will come running back here.

i will always want my marriage to work but im not a fool anymore. i know what would have to happen and i dont see that type of true remorse or true reconciliation happening anytime soon.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

its all hard, its hard that i must file for support through the famiyl court, its not going to stay friendly.

or who knows, reality will hit him and he will come running back here.

I think that if and when your legal move affects OW and her status here, your husband will be livid -- at least for awhile. You might want to prepare yourself emotionally for that response, as it is "script."

I still think, however, that it was THE RIGHT THING TO DO. Your response should be "I did it to protect myself and our family."

Puppy

[mdoodles]

he can get angry all he wants - she did this. she calls me, she sends me messages, she spoofs my number, she sends me pictures.

if there is anyone to be angry at, it really should be her, or himself for getting into this mess.

all i did was marry him. lol.