Fallgirl, It appears that your h is having some type of communication w/someone. It could be an EA versus a PA, but whatever it is, he's guilty as heck about it. He's making up too many excuses to take walks, go into town, etc. He's actually following the script a bit here because most of them do this in the beginning and then gradually pick up the pace.
As for your money, please find a way to protect your assets. It sounds like he's about to board the Mother Ship full time. Once the spending starts, the money will be gone in no time.
Lying is part of the script as well. You will not be able to believe a thing he says and you will need to learn to listen very closely and sift the words through the sifter and discover the true meaning of what he is saying.
You will now need to be the strong parent and be there for your child. It's going to be a long and winding journey for bothy you and you family. I'm very sorry to see you here. The best advice any of us can give you is to protect your assets, be there for you child, take care of yourself and find a way to go on w/your life as if he's not there. If you allow him to suck you into his drama, it will only drive you insane. Can you look at him and think of him as a tenant for a while? Your h is no longer the man you knew, he's become that teenager he should have been many years ago.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
