Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

[TeaEarlGreyHot]

"Second, what do you consider "stellar feedback and advice" and by what measure or yardstick do you make that assessment?"

LOL! The fact that you would even say this tells me all I need to know about your situation.

Tea, this will be my last post to you. Good luck with whatever it is you are trying to accomplish.

DQ

DQ:

That certainly is your choice. So, trusting that you are true to your word, I close and complete with you with the following:

It was a question, and a question, by it's nature cannot and does not tell you anything. It is are quest for information and is an opportunity to tell the requestor something.

The fact that it you stated that it told you "all I need to know about your situation" is incorrect. You read what I wrote and you had one or more feelings about it and gave what I wrote some meaning. You added to that by carrying out an internal conversation (a monologue) about the meaning and decided that what you say and feel about it is THE TRUTH, not what I said or asked.

This is a characteristic operating procedure for many people and they are largely unaware that they treat their feelings and the meanings/assumptions they assign to "what is happening" as reality, not what is actually happening.

Is the problem that I asked a question? Or is that by providing an answer and engaging in conversation, you might find that the everything that you are sure you know might be called into question? I don't expect you to answer that, just something for you to reflect upon.

So, the first time your new husband asks a question and you have a reaction that starts with "the fact that you would even say this" and ends with your reaction telling you "everything I need to know" you might wish to check-in with yourself on the answer to this question: How is that working out for you?

Or alternatively, in making yourself "right," and him/me/everyone else "wrong," how much connectedness is present in that moment? And has there ever been a time in your life when, in your rightness (or righteousness), you've experienced an occurrence of being connected?

There is nothing to figure out.

Good luck.