WAW wants to get togeather?

[bluerain]

Dude, Thats the point. Well, sort of, the point is for you to heal. To grow beyond where you are, and have been. To put yourself in a position where you make it through her MLC/A/whatever, in the most healthy way possible, and so that you are well positioned to either survive without her, or have a chance at a reconciliation when shes ready to work on things.

You realize what your saying? Once I become someone with a life, once I have healed and cultivated a richer existence, will I still be interested in her? Maybe you wont. Maybe you will realize that you deserve better, and you will have grown into a stronger man, maybe one who wont stand for the mistreatment. As well as one who has learned some valuable lessons about marriage and how to preserve it.

I honestly dont think that that would happen, I firmly beleive that you and her have a chance, and that your commitment wont waver, but would it be so bad if it did, if that was how it ended up?

I think that you are doing well not immediately replying to her texts, you arent pursuing, which may be why you are in such heavy contact with her, unlike many of the people on this board, but dont forget that you are following a DB principle here, maybe this is just the degree of going dark that your sitch needed!