Sandi your perspectives on things from your experience is a treasure beyond worth.
Bravehardt - I can agree with so much of what Sandi says because I've seen it in my W.
The BIG examples:
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your mind is so focused in on her and the stitch that you are not very attractive to her....to be perfectly honest
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The next thing is to realize that most women have a problem letting go of things that happened in the past. All these things you've told me that you have brought up to her and explained.......I can nearly promise you that she's not let it go and she still resents it. Just b/c you explained something or even b/c you apologized does not mean she was able to lay it down and not resent it.
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when the LBS detaches, it will do more to attract the WAS than almost anything else can do.
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guess who will have to earn that respect? Even if you have lost part of it (either with your help or without it), you can earn it back again.
Ah - I'm all quoted out - I should have simply cut and pasted Sandi's whole post again!).
Chin up - engage first gear and get on with things you do have some control over.
