Kett's post is pretty balanced. My H is a workaholic. I used to tell my friend that I would put on his tombstone, "he loved his work, and nothing else." And now is he a changed man? No, not really. But I learned to accept it. Do you wonder why I am on the internet so much talking to strangers? Because he likes to be by himself. And I have figured out that that isn't a crime, and it doesn't really hurt me. So I amuse myself separately. He doesn't resent the time I spend talking to you, and I don't care if he vegges out in front of the tv every night.
But we do make a point of going out to dinner every saturday night. And we are together at that time. And both weekend days are flexible if either of us has an idea of something to do together. The key to accepting it, for me, was to realize that I wasn't being abandoned or slighted. I just had to amuse myself, and not get mad about something that really wasn't about me.
Thinker, do you set aside some time to be alone and friendly with your wife? Do you do things that you both enjoy together sometimes? Can you increase the frequency of those times?
