Does anyone have any advice for this? My meddling MIL (yes, the root of the MLC!!!) lives about 5 minutes away. She likes to take the kids quite a bit, which used to be nice when H & I used the time to spend together. Now it only gives him an excuse to be able to run around & do as he pleases.

The biggest problem is that she will make plans w/H & half the time he will not communicate the plans to me. It is then a shock to me that my kids will not be home on Sat. night bc they are sleeping at grandmas. I have told H that since he is not communicating effectively w/me right now, that I feel plans need to be run by me AND him before one parent gives the ok. He seemed to be okay with this, but it continues to happen.

Should I say something to MIL? I have a feeling she would just use it to try & drive even more of a wedge between us...

As much as I don't think she wants to see us D...after all, she only thinks of herself & what would happen to her seeing GKs if that happens? Much more limited time with them for her. On the other hand, she is LOVING the attention she now gets from H w/me basically out of the picture.

It's actually pretty sickening to see their relationship now.

Me 36, Him 33
M 11yrs, T 15yrs
S 8, D 7
ILYBINILWY - 1/09
H moves out 10/09
D to be final SOON I HOPE!