Hey Shocked, I just wanted to try to encourage you. I am by no means in an encouraging mood but you seem so frazzled today I had to say something. I am relatively new to dbing but I do believe when your W (or mine or any WAW for that matter) are being cold and "hateful" that they are reacting to their own confusion. Perhaps they wonder about reconciliation or having second thoughts about leaving their H and it scares them to death. They wonder why they should be feeling that way when they think they are so hellbent on leaving. So being cold, distant, hateful, etc. is their reaction. It makes them feel safer because it helps get their D 'train' back on track. Chances are it could easily derail again if you keep staying your course. The last couple of times I saw my W I remembered this so I wouldn't worry as much about what she said or how cold she acted. In fact the last time we saw each other she seemed a little 'softer' toward me. Unfortunately we haven't spoken in over 3 weeks but maybe that is a good thing. Anyway, I wish you well.
