We've been to this rodeo before. And her goal in going to MC the first time was, essentially, to bring me around to her POV on the Wonderfulness of the divorce and to surrender my right to alimony.
(No, Gypsy, I'm not mind-reading -- this is what she told me after we terminated the MC, during one of our "better" periods during the in-house separation.)
My W told me exactly same thing. I didn't like the idea that she set up the MC as essentially an exit interview. She knows not to waste my time (or her $) on this stuff anymore. Likewise I won't waste my friends time and money recommending this C. I didn't feel it was good practice.
Originally Posted By: SmileysPerson
Though I didn't say this, all of my MWD/DR alarm bells went off -- this is precisely the problem with "therapy" as opposed to solutions-oriented counseling.
You might be good candidates for Retro. At least it has a start and finish. I hope they set you up with a few counselors who could also referee those mixed-martial-arts fighting championships because it seems you both have a lot to get out.
I don't pretend that C will answer all of my questions. A lifetime sitting on the couch next to Jung would only scratch the surface. Another argument for solutions-based therapy. Answer the now question now, continue working on your own.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
