WAW Using God

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what makes a relationship an emotional affair? most people agree on the following components:
-secrecy
-emotional intimacy that takes on greater importance than that in the marital relationship
-sexual tension (acknowledged or not)

how would she respond to these statements?
You are withdrawing from your spouse.
You are preoccupied and daydream about your friend more and more.
You are not interested in being intimate with your spouse, either emotionally or sexually.
The amount of time you and your spouse spend together is less.
When confronted about the apparent emotional affair, you respond, "We're just friends."
You find yourself anticipating when you can communicate or be with your friend again. Alone time together is important to you.
You are sharing your thoughts, feelings, and problems with your friend instead of your spouse.
You find reasons to give your friend personal gifts.
Your friend seems to understand you better than your spouse does.
You are keeping your friendship a secret from your spouse.

if these aspects are present, then you are completely justified in calling a spade a spade--and an emotional affair an affair.