Andrea I do belive my instincts often. I have no reason to doubt them up to now. I think we all have good instincts. Actually what we call instincta are basically the fact that we are so used to them, and the way they are that anything that is different is immediatly picked up.
It was easy to see that with his first affair, but the second was so different I did doubt my instincts for a bit. YOu see the fact that he was caring and loving was actually the way he used to be all the time - except at the time of his first affair - that's why it was so confusing to me. And still I could feel there was something.
I don't think I would able to go through a third affair either. I don't know how I would react if it happens but right now I feel like you, and he knows it as well. Just before he quit his job I wrote him an email and was quite hard. ANd on his bday I had made a web page a picture album with pictures since the beginning of our relationship up to now. In there I made a section called Brutal, on which I did tell him what I really was feeling. It wasn't too nice, but it was fair. I never thought he had payed any attention to any of those things , but a few weeks ago we were talking and he brought them up. He had noticed after all.
I wish you a beautiful wednesday with plenty of reasons to smile. Now I"m really going back to work nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "