Nightshade:
after reading your story i admire you very much... My h cheated me the first time (the 1ist i know) just months before he gave me the common speech of i dont know if i love you, blah blah blah... all the patterns of a MLC .. then, he cheated me again, after a year of reconciliation... and you know... you have so right when you said "we dont know why, but we can feel it"... yes, in that moment my h was so affective, so lovely... and he doesnt use to be like that, he is a kind of man of little affections since i know him... but for that i knew something was worng... and it was...!!... now we are together, and my instinct, in which i beleive a lot, tell me everything is ok and his moves shows me he really care about fixing our M for the rest of our life ... I think i wont accept any cheate again, and i think he knows that... so... this will be the final reconciliation... and i am working for that... patience, knowledge and love...
andrea