I don't know that this will make anybody's day exactly, but I wanted to share something that happened once. I had read all these books about M and how the wife/mother of the home is the one who usually sets the atmosphere in her home by the attitude she has. I read about different examples of how we can choose to have a good attitude and make the most out of our situation we're in.....or we can react with a bad attitude and make everyone around us miserable. So, you know....when you learned something new....you often get an opportunity to try the solution.
So, I had put in this long day and was tired, etc., when we get a call from my BIL that he and his family were coming in to see us. His two kids were horrible! I was not a happy camper about it. I could almost see my H cringe when I heard the news. But, believe it or not, that bit of book reading came to my mind and I thought I would put it to the test. So, I put a smile on my face and decided I would be the perfect hostess and try to do "my part" in doing what I could to open up my home to my in-laws and show them a nice time (even if I didn't invite them...lol). Now here's the thing.....I may have started out putting on a front, but it was not long until I honestly felt what I was projecting to everyone. They all responded in a positive manner and even those kids weren't too bad! After they all left the house that night, my H put his arms around me and told me how proud he was of me! That made it all worth my efforts. (I guess we could get off into another branch of not trying to earn others approval, etc., but that isn't the point here.) I think all of us can do more than we give ourselves credit for doing when the hard times come. That wasn't a case like most are facing here on the board, but it does prove that we can make or break almost any type of situation by the kind of attitude we have. I had other, more severe situations where I applied that same test to discover that my attitude most certainly made a difference in "Sandi", if not in those around me.
At the end of the day, if you feel that you have done the best you could and was the best person in every situation that day.....then you can feel good about yourself and when you do that.....I believe those around you will respond. It is not an arrogant attitude, but it does show strength, character & honor. To the opposite sex.....that is very attractive b/c it says you are confident in your own skin. Physical appearance goes a long way--and for several years (if you are blessed), but baby......you better have more than that if you plan to spend any time with another person for any length of time!
And that is the thought of the day from "Sandi's Corner". (LOL!)
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
