The things that make someone fall in love and/or keep them there are different for everyone. Physical appearance and status are important to some people. That might be true with your H. It also might be guilt....maybe he feels guilty for your illness, or that he has had better health.
I don't know if this is similar enough or not....but about 6 years ago, I had an automobile accident, and broke my kneecap. I was in a brace for about 6 weeks. Relatively minor. But a serious turnoff for my man. I really thought he was shallow. I have also had colorectal cancer and a resection. You think that would have been more of a turnoff, but a few years in between, this interaction has been very good (physical chemistry). I am also 20 lbs heavier. (ugh!....and a bit older....more ugh)
He is a guy for whom physical appearance and status is important. Does it make him more shallow. I tend to think so. But that's my personal bent. Still, he is kind and loving, considerate and caring. This is just one part of the picture.
So....I do my best to be attractive with everything else, and work out and eat healthy to reduce my weight and work to get into the best shape I can. I will never be able to change the fact I had cancer and have issues related to that. But I can upgrade to runner (my goal--i actually do more walking than running now, but I plan to run the 1/2 marathon in October instead of walking most of it)
Things aren't always what they SHOULD be, but they are what they are. Be your best self for the both of you.
Mostly....take really good care of yourself, because that's the most attractive thing.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
