Hang on, there. We just need to be patient. Your H tells you it is done with because he wants it to be done with. When he gets upset and impatient at you, it is probably himself he blames, he is just projecting those feelings on you. It is not necessarily personal.

But of course I am also overreactive and very careful of my H's tones of voice and small gestures. And I also tend to feel threatened and scared. I'd advise you to check out Talista's threads. They helped me a lot yesterday, and she has the kind of wisdom we need right now. Her H sounds a lot like mine.

I gave up on being perfect a long time ago, when I realized it was killing me. Now I only try do to my best, and it can be pretty overwhelming. It works, most of the time, but sometimes the Superwoman complex sneaks in... One of my mentors told me once that the secret was to 'get good help'; she was right.

Last edited by optimist; 09/22/03 10:17 PM.
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