How do you D when neither party wants it?

[Serenity13]

Hi New...

Do what Puppy told me to do - Protect yourself AS IF he's not coming back, but keep your heart open and conduct yourself as if he might...

Going dim or dark is easier if they aren't in the house right there in your face all the time...

My hubby walked out of the house last Friday (still stings to type that) after I left for work...

No note, no call nothing...

Just packed and gone...

He did text me later on that afternoon to tell me he wasn't coming home and yesterday was the first time I have heard from him since...

It literally brought me to my knees...I was at work when I found out and just stunned to my core...Came right here and thanks to these people, was able to at least breathe again...

Now a week later, sad to say but it is easier for me with him out of the house...

I don't have to listen to him on the phone or computer...I don't have to hear the OW voice on the phone (she is a loud talker) ...

I don't have to walk on eggshells anymore...Wondering if I am going to say the wrong thing or think the wrong thing or break down in front of him etc...

If you (not about him - you) don't want a divorce, then you don't have to get one...The feelings are still there...They are buried under resentment, hostility, anger etc...Once you can release that, you will find the feelings again...

Just because you have a son doesn't mean you need to keep the marriage together and going in with that isn't going to work either...The marriage is about you and hubby and your son is a bonus...You can not build a marriage on children...

You build it on trust, respect, love, acceptence, forgiveness etc...You know this in your heart

No you can't change his mind however you can change you...Start your 180's (they do work), GAL (works as well) and remeber what I said in the start of my post - Protect yourself AS IF he's not coming back, but keep your heart open and conduct yourself as if he might...

(((Hugs)))

~Serenity