Wow, Night, we could be twins! I also left my home and family behind and travelled thousands of km to be with my H. In any case I'm very close to my family via web and phone but except in the hideous first 2 weeks I have not found them much help. Do not take me wrong, they love me and root for me: but that is the problem. They want the fastest way out, not necessarily the one that is the best in the long run . But it is wonderful to know you will always be loved regardless of what you do, think or turn into!

And lucky me, I have a lot more ties to Texas than you to Canada, even if it is only a great job and lots of wonderful friends that have acted as a surrogate family. I would not leave even if we divorce. I have built a life for my D and myself here and I like it

I agree with you in the EA vs PA issue: I fear more the EA. My H and his OW had sex much less often than we two did (and that is info the OW did not know she was giving me while she tried to freak me out), but their A lasted on and off 5 years and I do not know how to achieve NC.

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Relationships are such complex things aren't they? Letting someone have the power to hurt us this much is what takes courage, and we do it without even thinking of it, I suppose human beings are way braver than what they look


Hear, hear, hear.

And yes, you are in the right place!

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"