Well, I just got an email from H. He said D9 is doing so much better, he doesn't want to discontinue her therapy and will pay for the next month, the $100 which he will pay directly to the therapist. He says he has an extra $100 b/c he promised S15 he would pay 1/2 of an XBox for him, but now he's going to tell him that he can't b/c he has to pay for D9's therapy b/c I'm not working he says. What to email back? I know what my first thought is, but instead I'm thinking I'll just email back. Thanks and give him the new phone #. Any thoughts?
I would think he would have quite a bit of extra money since he isn't paying his bills!! Isn't he only "renting" a room with a friend anyhow? I know you get get a cheaper x-box on ebay. I replaced the boys 360 for $80 and it came with a guarantee. Sound like he really wants to paint you as the bad guy. I am disliking him more and more.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'll check out ebay. Good idea. S15 saved up his own $100 for it, and Dad was supposed to match that.
He moved out to his own apt. a little bit before I did. Apparently a nice apt. on the lake. Probably more expensive than my house in the country. $750 to $850 I would guess. I still think he's got more money than me. He's always taking trips, takes the kids out to restaurants and gives them steak, etc. I'm doing the hotdog thing. I just think he has no idea. With him picking up the therapy, he's still going to be paying less than half the copays each month. And feels like he's such a saint, too... Karen
Strange that he could rent a place like that with his credit going down the tubes. Maybe he had to pay a couple of months rent plus a deposit? He is such scum.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
"now he's going to tell him that he can't b/c he has to pay for D9's therapy b/c I'm not working he says."
I hope you kept this email. Isn't this called alienation or something along those lines?
Wouldn't it be nice to say back, "And I'll tell D9 that I'm not working because her low life SOB of a father had sex with another woman and decided to break up the family causing me to change my work status that was decided together when we were married. Now, because he wants to remain with the slut, I'm suppose to find a job during the worst economy ever, after I sacrificed my work status and job experience to stay home with the kids never thinking I had to cover my as$ in case you left me high and dry."
That is AWESOME, Wdid!!! I wonder what he would do if I sent that to him??? Funny thing is it's all true too!
Well, I sent him one saying I think the therapies are good for her (duh but I didn't put that), and I will take her. Gave him my new phone #, and then prob. shouldn't but shared with him how great the kids were when we volunteered yesterday. They had tons of middle and high school kids there for community service hours they have to do when public school, and most of them were horrible about helping. Both of mine worked really hard and at one point for an hour or 2 S15 was digging up mass piles of dirt with some other men. I asked him in the middle if he wanted a soda break and he said no he was so into helping I guess. Whenever I could get into a pity party for myself, I think of my kids, and I know I have so much!
Oh, and I do have that email. I was actually thinking about sending it to my L b/c it does say he is going to help out $100 a month with the copays as something she would prob. want to know. I could let her decide about the I think poor parenting nature of the note....
Well knew I made a mistake yesterday. In my email I shared something about the kids & their volunteer work. H emails me today saying volunteer work is great, but shouldn't I be spending the time looking for a job? Then I sent a paragraph email defending myself: the truth is there are such few jobs around here, mostly just layoffs, I've been applying to the few a week that are available, leaving time for volunteer work. I resolve to go hard-core NC from now on b/c of course then he wouldn't have felt like I opened up myself for criticism or comment!!!! Karen
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