Well..... I don't know..... I'll use my own experience to tell you how I feel/felt. Right now, I am starting to think about my neighbors and wonder how much they know. I'm ashamed and embarrassed to think about what they have said about me to each other. I don't know what has been said. I do wonder. I could ask them in a way that is general, like saying we have had some trouble the past couple years and see their response, or ask if they noticed. But, the thing is, it is so hard to face this. I don't think I want to get the information going. I want to move forward, not backward. I'm having enough hard time leaving the past in the past,....... So, I don't know if I answered your question. Maybe I have.....In my opinion, your W will face those things as soon as she can. Either in her head or talking to others. You don't want to say it to her, just to punish her, especially if you think she is "getting there" on her own. Because if she is, then she is facing enough of it on her own.
