~ My story ~

[WCW]

It might be hard to DB when your DBing someone who knows the signs of DB. You tried calling, he was dark. lol

D1978, what do YOU want to do? Do you want to try? Do you want to stay M to this H?

You said about him that "~ Don't know what you got till it's gone ~" but doesn't that apply to you as well? H doesn't respond to your txt and you're calling and txting and driving by to find him. I understand the anxiety but you're not helping yourself.

You both have trust issues for obvious reasons, you've both had affairs! My opinion - you and your H need to be under the same roof and have open book lives to each other. No secrets, no hidden phone calls, total open book. You need to build trust. You'll never do that apart. Just my opinion.

Your M is still so new, you're trying to blend a family while not even living together. Why do you think you lost interest in your H after the baby was born? or did you lose interest before the baby?? back up another step, did you lose interest after you won the prize from your H's first W?

As I said before, M is a commitment. It's not all about euphoria feelings when you first fall in love. It's not just great sex. You and your H have not been in any M long enough to learn to love and survive the ups and downs. You need to learn to turn into your M and not turn away from it.

MC would be a great idea, but do find a SBT. IC would be good too.

Happy Birthday to your daughter! make a great day for her!