Wow it amazes me how we get to a point where we can just see script. LOL. I do agree with Almost, apologize that you hurt his feelings. It doesn't mean you were wrong in what you did, except that maybe you didn't consider him as much as he THINKS you should have. One thing I have learned is that even though that stuff probably gets exaggerated during this, there were things that we could have done differently, considered our S's more, and it did hurt them. What we must remember is that just like we have our feelings about things, and they might not agree or like them, they also have their feelings and even if we don't agree with them, doesn't make them any less valid. And since the concensus is that MLC has much to do with them feeling like their feelings mean nothing to anyone (stemming from childhood), it is very very important to validate NO MATTER WHAT. They take it in, sit with it, and sometimes we see the results, sometimes we don't. But it is important.
On a side note--Mach--we have been at this about the same amount of time, this past week, when I talk to H, I have had this overwhelming desire to tell him "I love you". It just pops into my head and I have to bite my tongue to keep it from spilling out. Hasn't happened in a long time because I know I shouldn't. Any thoughts? Maybe I should add that I think I am finally watching him slide to the bottom. I have noticed that the replay behaviors have become practically zero in the last month or so and can see the depression setting in. I don't know if I should be relieved or not LOL. Just sitting on the side watching the rollercoaster go down and down and down.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
