How do you D when neither party wants it?

[wolverine1997]

Don't really understand. If neither of you want a D, then simply don't do it. Feelings are developed by spending quality time together. When the two of you first started dating their were no feelings, but after spending quality time together the feelings started to develop.

What problems caused you two to drift apart? I think if you address the problems in the marriage then the feelings will re-occur. If husband doesn't have feelings then why doesn't he want a divorce? If neither of you want to divorce then obviously their is still something there to be salvaged. MC seems to be a good start. Even if he won't go you can still do so.

I think the first step is that you need to develop a positive outlook. Act as if! You keep saying that their is no other choice but D! WRONG! You have choices. Figure out what you want to do and then work in that direction.