LOL - Almost, it sounds like you have a good handle on what goes on in their heads. I have felt like I can actually SEE that same thought process going through my H's head after he has done something/said something that I might construe as him caring. And yes, then comes the pull back.
I am trying to do just as your coach says - enjoy the positive but not let it affect me when the pull back happens. It is getting easier and easier.
I have been keeping a journal - both good and bad things so I can try to figure out what works or doesn't or see patterns. BUT I am also trying not to focus too much on all that stuff and just be.
