K4D - I was concerned about whether the UNO looked staged or not, but the bottom line was that we were all having fun so even if there was a little display going on, the ends justified the means in my book. The Ds and I had a good time. It's confusing because I’m supposed to act happy and upbeat, even when I’m not. DB talks about making changes that are noticeable too. I can't find the page but it references making big changes at work as not being effective as the WAS isn't going to notice them. There's a fine line to walk between pretending to have changed for a display and choosing things that surprise her out of a 180 concept, and then maybe even doing them just because it makes you feel good. I think the UNO game was more the latter then the prior.
But - as I was typing this my wife called me on my new Crackberry (8330 Curve - work bought it for me so I didn't have a choice) and we had a nice talk. She wanted to know what I was going to do with the girls tomorrow. I'm taking them out to a state park where some friends of mine are camping...we're not staying over night but we'll crush some hotdogs and marshmallows and maybe fish a little.
My wife filled out the D papers a few weeks ago while she was still saying she was willing to wait on filing. Last Sunday she decided she wasn't willing to wait, so she called the ATTY this past Monday. He hasn't called back. I asked her if she wanted to talk about the D ATTY and she said no, that she was just worrying about getting a job for the moment. I told her that with her not being able to refi on the house w/o a job, having neither health insurance nor us having the cash to pay for the D, we didn't have many practical options right now anyway. She seemed to agree. I asked her if I was giving her enough space to feel like the D could wait a while (was this a mistake?)and she said that I was. So – it looks like the D is on hold for the time being and that feels like a major victory.
This day ended up pretty well. She doesn't realize it, but I've still not been the first one to call her this week. I've returned her messages, but never called 'just because'. It seems to be working as well as can be expected this early in the game.
