I think you looking for an apartment is the right way to go. The reason is that she will see that you are not clinging to her. You are not acting "needy", so if anything, that should make you look more attractive to her. She could just be testing you to see if you really would leave the M. Don't give up too soon.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
