She told me to act as if....but put it in a way I could really get it.
She said "What if you knew for sure H was coming home sooner than later? Not doubts, you know he's coming home.....how would you act right now? You would go live your life and leave him alone. You might even laugh at some of his crap right now.....just let him do whatever he's got to do right now, live your life and laugh.....he'll be home."
And that's when I was able to really detach and let him screw up, fix it on his own or try to, etc. And I've seen more progress now that I've done that than since this started. Admittedly some other things have happened to help get his butt into gear, but the start was me "acting as if" I know he's going to work this out.
That is a really good way to put it. I will have to add that to my list of "wisdom to remember".
Thank you for sharing it
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
