I think it just speaks volumes about the type of relationship you each have with them. You see their 'issues" and help them cope the best way possible where as your H chooses to wear blinders in hopes that the issues will go away.
I am sure that they know you both love them but I think when it comes to support, they will come to you. When it comes to problems they may have you have always seen the big picture and not just what you wanted to see.
They are lucky to have you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
H has been taking the kids to track night the last couple weeks except the one where I took them b/c he was out of town. Today he emails me do I want to meet them at the track or have him drop them off after? I just saw him Tuesday at that meeting thing. My first thought is to suggest he drop them off today and I take her next week to track night? But just wanted to run this by y'all, b/c we're going through custody issues and stuff and I don't want to screw up. I would like to see D9 probably in her races tonight, but I also don't like to hang around H too much, so tough one for me. Any thoughts on this? Karen
Ok, I'm just going to email him that I'm busy today but thanks for taking the kids and dropping off sounds great, and in exchange I'll take the kids next Thursday? That should be ok, dont you think?
I do. This kind of seems to be his thing with the kids. I think each parent tends to have their territory where they are the most comfortable. Since he is a runner, I think this is his. You are doing fine.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
So I emailed him I'm busy today but thanks for taking the kids and dropping them off. And then if he'd like I could take the kids next week to Track Night (he used to go to AA that night but I guess he doesn't go anymore but I'm not gonna ask). He emails back he'll drop the kids off tonight and then I could meet them at the track next week if I want? WTH? I think I'll pass. I guess I shouldn't have offered. I feel like we're on 2 different wavelengths or something; maybe we are... Karen
I emailed H the email last night saying I can't afford the copays anymore for the therapies and medical stuff. H emails back today just to say "I just can't believe you won't get a job." Obviously don't plan to respond to that one.
S15 just had dentist work (extractions and fillings!) so I just emailed him back that S15 was fine, although still numbed out, and we loaded up on puddings, and soft food for him for the next day. He hadn't even asked about S15 in his email of course.... Karen
Maybe you should send him a copy of every application/rejection letter too!!! Does he honestly think you aren't trying?? Money is the only motivation for this man. What a sad world he lives in.
Hugs to you and the kids. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I know. He thinks the OW is much better than me b/c she's a L with a good income. She's my total opposite. We have much different views on life.
Had a fun day today. Took D9 swimming. I did get landline phone service btw, but they said they can't guarantee it won't be on until Wed. at 5pm. I'm going to buy a phone this weekend so I'll be ready. I got unlimited long distance!!! Whoo hoo!
We just made up play clay for D9 and played with it, just took out of the oven.
I plan on doing volunteer work again tomorrow with the kids at the middle school downtown. Swimming lesson for D9. Exercised today while baking the clay.
I realized today that H's emails used to make me feel bad for hours (days?) a year ago or so, but today maybe 5 or 10 minutes. So some improvement there.
Your ex...man.....what has he turned into? He doesn't seem to even THINK about the kids...it's always how he can be the most cheap.
You've grown soooo much, Karen. You and Kat both sound so good and are doing some really great things to "Get a Life"....focusing on your kids, clubs, volunteer work, etc. What a great model for your kids and for other LBS.
