I had the girls again today while the W was working. She stopped by the apartment this afternoon to pick them up. When she came in the girls and I were having a raging game of UNO (I won both hands.) Then the girls decided they wanted to have a dance-off where D5 was the judge and D7 and I were dancing, but D7 likes to wrestle and it sort of digressed into that. Anyway - the point being I was glad to be able to DO something that indicates change within me as opposed to feeling the need to TELL the W about it. She came in looking for something to eat, we smiled a little and then she left. I'm trying to notice the small achievements and this seems to be one. I also am NOT going to call her tonight, though I may have to answer if she calls me.
Am I taking DB and DR out of context when she says to 'act as if...'. A couple of weeks back I acted 'as if...' we were going to be able to make it though this eventually, and it certainly made he wonder what I was doing. She asked if I was being so nice and upbeat because I thought she wouldn't file. I don't want to give myself a sense of false hope either, but I'm proceeding with the idea that I'll 'act as if' for now, and if someday she does decide to file I'll deal with that then.
Then the girls decided they wanted to have a dance-off where D5 was the judge and D7 and I were dancing, but D7 likes to wrestle and it sort of digressed into that. Anyway - the point being I was glad to be able to DO something that indicates change within me as opposed to feeling the need to TELL the W about it. She came in looking for something to eat, we smiled a little and then she left. I'm trying to notice the small achievements and this seems to be one. I also am NOT going to call her tonight, though I may have to answer if she calls me.