I can see pieces of my sitch in yours. The specifics are not the same, but the concept of this endless cycle that you two seem to be stuck in certainly applies. One thing that my W and I discovered about 3 months ago is that both of us had been covering up our lack of emotional intimacy with physical intimacy. Obviously I’m as confused as I can be, but I wonder if that might be something that is going on with you two. When my wife realized what she was doing and cut me off of the physical stuff, I was clueless and took it as rejection. Your R seems to have a lot of anger in it and I wonder if that’s what he’s doing. If you two are intimate, in his mind everything is salvageable. When you aren’t – he feels rejected then tries to get you to take him back in. Then when you want HIM back, he doesn’t feel rejected anymore so he resists.
I’m just putting that out there for review and to share some of the things that I’ve become aware of with my M.
