Over the Shock and GALing 6

[MrBond]

"I've tried (although maybe I can try harder, more, again, etc.). Each time is received with a stiff emotional forearm - disgust, unhappiness, "Don't do that, I don't want that from you! I don't feel that way about you! Don't pressure me that way!"

Don't do it for her. Do it for yourself in terms of being the man in charge. Do it as if you were single. If she doesn't like it tough. You should do the changes you want to.

Took me awhile to figure this out. My W would say the same things and even "I don't want you to meet my needs!" So I did what I wanted to do because I wanted to and not to satisfy any need of hers.