Wow V. I don't see your post as cryptic at all. In fact, I strongly relate to it!
I have been separated for 2 years now and I have analysed every aspect of me, my H and my life. I overthink but I have to say with that I have felt every little feeling there is to feel. I've been on that rollercoaster ride up and down, round and round and I know I have truly grown as a person because of the journey.
Fear has always been a huge part of my life journey and I am discovering that the more I face my feelings and my fears the more I discover that I love about being me!