H's been rather nice, lately. .... Then he called and said that he really would rather NOT drive in the middle of rush hour (which I understand).
Really?
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But, he said that if I wanted to see her tomorrow, we could meet somewhere or I could call her so she can hear my voice.
This is not right and you know it. Manipulation of the worst kind - If I wanted to... This sounds like a TV show with blackmail as the main feature. Not right.
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I know I'm being a baby.
No you are not being a baby - you are a mother who loves your daughter.
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But, the good news is that I get her for 3 weeks straight
And you grab that with every fiber of your being irrespective of what else he is doing.
You enjoy yourself with your daughter.
I'll catch up with you in the morning after I've had some well earned sleep.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
I forgot to add in the little weird part of our convo this morning. I asked him to notarize a letter allowing me to get a passport for K. We are planning a trip to Cabo (free timeshare) in Sept and a trip to Ireland next year. So, he hasn't mentioned the Cabo thing until today. He starts asking me about one of my friends (male) that I used to work with. I work with all males. I am the only female and I have many male friends. But, this one I kinda had a crush on. So, he asks me about him because I talk about him often. And, he says, "let me guess. This guy worked there when we were together and you were attracted to him?" I said, "no, he started right before I went on maternity leave. And, he no longer works there". So, then he asks me if he is the person I am going to Cabo with. I just said "no" and left it at that.
I also found out there is a small amount of trouble in paradise.
Before I go on....I know you'll all be mad because I am still looking at that FB page......but, OW has been making weird comments in her status...."my first love emailed me last week"...."I hate men/boys who slam the door instead of shutting it. It's one of my pet peaves and I am recently getting tons of pet peaves"...." I hate when people lie to me" (and someone replies "was it RP?(that's H's brother) or the other one?" Uh, oh. Someone's gonna get a time out. Or grounded. My poor H. Maybe she'll take his phone away or his motorcycle or his dirtbike or his quad or his new truck....or his golf clubs or make him pay rent or buy groceries....what else has she bought him? Hmmmmmmmmm......let's see.
"POPcorn, PEAnuts. Get your POPcorn, PEAnuts"
Last edited by blindsided1; 07/18/0901:56 AM.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Stupid me for still looking at that dumb FB page. He had a convo with an ex-gf where he told her that I wasn't a good woman, but now he has a good woman and 4 great kids. I feel like crap. I AM A GOOD WOMAN. And, I want to be validated. Part of me thinks he says that crap to make everyone think he has changed and isn't a sh!t anymore. He goes on and on about how he has changed and she even talks about how awful he was to her and all the girls he has been with but, now, she "sees how he has grown up and changed and has everything he ever wanted". I also have told myself he is saying that, not only to validate that he has made the right choice, but also in case OW looks at his FB. I am SO SURE she does.
My stupid a$$ fault. When will I learn that it only causes me grief to look?
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Ahh...makes sense now for the comment about the popcorn and peanuts you left on your FB page!
Don't feel too bad for snooping. When things are right there in front of you its really hard not to. I fight it every day not to drive by or check emails. Now if it were miles away or I could't see, it wouldn't be so tempting. Know that it only does hurt us in the end. Keep in mind, especially with FB, people put things up there knowing certain others will see it.
Have a good weekend. Text me if you want.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
