Over the Shock and GALing 6

[MrBond]

Your W is just like mine. When she feels "attacked" like if things get too "personal" she starts threatening or attacking back with low blows.

I turn those around by very calmly telling her that she is getting everything she's asked for, so she should be asking herself, why am I so angry? She goes quiet after that.

Sounds like your W has major self-esteem issues. She wants someone else to validate her existence and looks. She can't do it on her own. Once she started disrespecting you, she didn't see you as a source of validation any more and would seek it elsewhere.

For my W, I started saying little compliments here and there just in passing. Then slowly built them up from there. Even in the heat of battle, there are lulls.