Honestly, during much of our M, I never really flirted with her. I was too busy working - working at my job, working on the house, etc.
I can guess now that she really missed it and wanted it - but had no ability to ask.
This is why Kalni's post on SP's thread earlier today struck me. The worst thing I did for most of our M was to just leave her alone - ignore her much of the time while I was working.
One of her retorts 2 days ago when I confronted her with her texts was to say "Well, you cheated on me for years - with your work". She was definitely jealous of the attention and time I put into my work.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.