I think the 48 hour rule is great - the fire in the anger usually does dissipate making it easier to have a rational discussion.:)
Okay, so I was having a harder time at the beginning of the week and then doing better and now ??? The "problem" is that he is acting so much more normal the past few days in some ways, particularly in his interactions with me. He speaking like the H I know (and love). This makes it so much harder for me to detach! Last night he could tell something was up with me (because he came into my room, not because I was acting it in front of him, other than a little comment I made, should have kept my mouth shut). He was trying to pry out of me what was wrong and said, "you can tell me stuff, you know." No, I really didn't know. He sure hasn't acted much like he has cared about me or my "stuff" for months now, even before "the bomb." Anyway, I did give him a very vague answer but I am NOT going to tell him "stuff" that bothers me, unless maybe it is something to do with the kids that I feel like he should know. But nothing to do with him.
Good with the yuck, I guess. It is heartening when he acts like he cares.
