Well it seems like both of you are just repeating what he did when you first went out. He cheated on his W with you. You were okay with it. Are you really surprised that he then turned it around and cheated on you and vice versa?
When a R doesn't start off with honesty, it perpetuates and continues. The ones who suffer? Your kids.
Right now both you and your H are thinking about yourselves and have from the beginning. You're going to both have to do some serious soul searching and if you want to stop the cycle, you have to both give up your selfish ways.
Of course he told you that you were the one when you first hooked up. You were the OW. He hurt his first W who was PREGNANT but you didn't care because you were "in love" with him. Now you and he realize that those feelings don't last.
Seeing a T would do you both good. Even if you went by yourself, it would help you to deal with your own issues.
Just my 2 cents.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
