Doc Phil's advice was to the W. He told her that she has to essentially "grow up" and that she's on a self-destructive path. She was looking for the "thrill" of being a flirt and being "in love". And he said that if she kept it up, she's going to end up raped or abused if she "harmlessly" flirts with someone who may not realize she's just playing.
Plus he asked if it was an appropriate way of behaving for someone with kids. And she said 'no....but'. Just like your W. Her saying that "it's harmless" is denial. Of course it's harmful. It's harmful to you and your kids.
My God I have been having exactly this same fear.
I feel like a father having to protect his clueless teenage daughter.
And that is the LAST thing I want to be - not the R I want to have with my W.
Like Dr. Phil, I wish someone would shake her and yell "GROW UP" (But I can't do that, she is the only one who can really change)
Last edited by Thinker; 07/17/0909:21 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
