Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Thanks Kalni, Ketricken, Coach,

I know that the root of much of my emotions right now are self esteem, but right now what I am feeling is indignant anger.

When I let them go and watch them, my angry thoughts run along the line of...

[SilentRanting = Thinker]
How F___ing Dare She!!!

I am an attractive, healthy, vibrant, fun man, a good provider, and a good father. I work my @ss off to provide a good home for our family, then switch over and spend the evenings working with the kids and taking care of things around here so she can build up her new career. We have a great family life together...

And yet she is angry and I get no credit for anything I do. Sexually she rejects me, reacting with revulsion and tears.

How dare she turn around and get all giggly hot and heavy with this overweight, unhealthy boor who is obviously not even taking care of his own family. How Dare she treat so disrespectfully!!

How dare she have so little regard for me!!
[/SilentRanting]

Yes, this is me reacting all about me, to something that she does that is all about her.

So I remind myself that these are her actions, and realities, and really, it has nothing to do with what I do or who I am and is not a reflection on me...

I'm far better than that.

and that leaves me with...

Is this really her? or just her confused reaction to our sitch and everything else that is going on in her life.

and

If it is really her, am I willing to stay married to her?

and, in the meantime...

What do I want to respond tactically?