Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Kettricken]

Since you have both committed to Retro, might she AT LEAST commit to a "truce", including no outside contacts of that nature, until after then? If not, why not? If she can't live without her little textbuddies for a couple of months, she's got WAY bigger personal emotional problems than anything related to your marriage .....

Dude, I dunno. If it was me and I could, I'd yank her phone and email. NOT saying that's good advice, but ....

The other option is to call a personal truce. Don't ask don't tell, unilaterally, by yourself for yourself, until after Retro. (I know it's not a magic bullet, but a lot of couples sure seem to be able to turn their marriages around with what they learned there.) Then see where you both are, and yes, snoop if necessary to know you're making a decision based on all the facts.

At least you won't be constantly torturing yourself with fresh hells of data in the interim. And all options will still be yours.

Sucks however you look at it, though .....

(((thinker)))