Besides the pain this is causing me now. (I am feeling anything but detached. I am feeling hurt, and angry, and disgusted. It is dredging up base childhood fears of not being good enough. It is striking a huge blow to my ego. etc) It is like watching a train wreck about to happen.
I know I can't control her. I know she has to make her own decisions and travel her own journey and...
But this guy is playing her.
This raises 2 main feelings or fears in me...
1) If she falls into this one the same way she did into the last, then... not sure I could go through all of that again.
2) If this is who she is, if what I am seeing now is how it will be, then I really don't want to be in that marriage.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.