My gut and prayers have really nailed down alot of what she will so. Part of the time it has hit spot on before she even knw she as going to do it. Is this normal because I have other LBS say the same.
Another late nighter. I vaguely remember being woken up at somewhere around 2:30. I think, I was out of it, could have been a dream for all I remember.
I think you can take advantage of it. You have to be on your toes. Look good, not sloppy. Smell good, not stinky. Be nice but not in her face. Be the lighthouse in the storm. That's how you take advantage. If you are having a bad day, you want to turn to a plac of comfort right? Be that place of comfort for her. You become that place of comfort often enough, it will make an impact.
Well I think we are to the next step. W found a place to move into and will probably be moving next week. Now I'm starting to get the guilt trip of her not having anything.,, i.e..dishes, containers, etc.
Look when my H moved out, I packed his stuff. I gave him somethings from the kitchen, including an extra set of plates.
Later he wanted to take one of the TVs. And starts to tell me he's taking the one from the bedroom. I said, "No." He was quiet and asked if he should take the one from the living room? I said "Nope, you can't have that one either." And I told him, you will have to figure that out on your own. I told you I understand your need to move out. I will even respect it, I even helped you pack. But you taking one of the tvs is too much of a pain in my a$$, so no. This isn't what I wanted but I helped you anyways. I need the TV in the living room because that's where I work out with my DVD's. (I do the Firm at home, love it.) And S and I love to cuddle up and watch tv in the bedroom.....when he and I do that, I love it and I don't want to give that up.
He got huffy, but guess what? I have two tvs in my house.
He tried to guilt me too. Nothing doing buddy.
If you want to help her, then do it because you want to. There is no guilt here for wanting to keep the things in your home for you and your family. She can figure it out.
I completely agree. She does hVe a tv she can take. I gave it to her for Xmas. It's one we just put out when using the bath. Otherwise it sits in the closet it's hers. But it's not digital and she won't have cable. She will need a convertor. But I agree, I'm not the one who wants to leave. Why should I lose possessions?
A d she is going to get a job. I did offer to help create a resume. DB coachs idea.
