Look when my H moved out, I packed his stuff. I gave him somethings from the kitchen, including an extra set of plates.
Later he wanted to take one of the TVs. And starts to tell me he's taking the one from the bedroom. I said, "No." He was quiet and asked if he should take the one from the living room? I said "Nope, you can't have that one either." And I told him, you will have to figure that out on your own. I told you I understand your need to move out. I will even respect it, I even helped you pack. But you taking one of the tvs is too much of a pain in my a$$, so no. This isn't what I wanted but I helped you anyways. I need the TV in the living room because that's where I work out with my DVD's. (I do the Firm at home, love it.) And S and I love to cuddle up and watch tv in the bedroom.....when he and I do that, I love it and I don't want to give that up.
He got huffy, but guess what? I have two tvs in my house.
He tried to guilt me too. Nothing doing buddy.
If you want to help her, then do it because you want to. There is no guilt here for wanting to keep the things in your home for you and your family. She can figure it out.
