Hey?!? Who Locked Up My Mojo?

[orangedog]

@Lucky - "The bad for them kind of person"- Yeah. At this point O'dog doesn't need a "caretaker" but someone who will enhance differentiation. Play and encouragement = good. Criticism = bad. I think I understood this when reading both "Delivered from Distraction" - Hallowell (ADHD - people tend to pair up with caretakers who become resentful, angry, schoolmarms), and "Passionate Marriage", Schnarch.


This reads too much like a personal ad but here goes:


Total understanding of one another - Not expected (dare say impossible) but supportive.

Intimacy - Knows what she's got. Knows how to use it. Not afraid to "take the wheel" once in a while. I think we should read Ch 10 of Schnarch again...

Thoughtful

Playful

Smart

Worldly view - Important. "It's all good."

Rather backpack thru Costa Rica than sit around doing nothing at a high-dollar resort.

O'dogs self time - Important.

Your self time - Important.

Argumentative - Maybe, but understanding always. Agree to disagree.

Moods - Yes, we have them. Yes we struggle. It's Ok. We take our downtime then come back when ready.

Bitchiness and pecking - Only to the person working at the airport ticket counter.

Admiration - sure but "encouragement" is better.

Likes to play games? Like Jenga, writing innuendos with FridgeFun magnets, and Mini-Golf - Yes, but "Silent Treatment" and "Guess Who I am Today" - No

Recurrent-depression and/or ADHD preferred. A better match for O'dog.

Silk, cotton, wool? - No. Cool-Max, Gore Tex, and Polar-Fleece - Yes!

No full-time Princesses. The "Oh help me fair prince! I can't figure out how to use the gas station pump thingie and my car is on E" is cute sometimes but seriously a W who is confident and who can take care of herself is sexy...

....O'dog will still open the car door for you on Saturday night. Give me that smile back. Oh yeah...!

Don't be afraid to get your feet dirty once in a while. O'dog thinks a W who crashes her bike into the weeds, gets up, throws the chain back on, and keeps riding is sooooo....oh, don't get me started.

Kids - Play with them. Have fun. Remember to take time for us too.