Yes, BeingMe, what you say does make sens.... however, to place a series of choices leading to our destiny has me wondering what choices did I make so poorly? I've tried the best I know how, I've looked for the lessons in my experiences, as I have found some... yet, I can't understand why this cloud of negativity hasn't left my shoulders.
Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn't be out there doing things much differently, more like others who have no empathy, or sympathy for those things they have done against other..... Like my ex who seems to have the world being offered to him, and he seems not to care about the emotional scars that he has created in the lives of others.
I know, I shouldn't compare myself to anyone, but myself... but I can't help but sometimes wonder about this. I know I shouldn't expect rewards... but I did hope for fair.
I know... life isn't fair, and I need to keep this in mind too. No one said it would be, and I don't know why I want it that way.
My anxiety is building as the hearing date approaches... I have to try and stay postive.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Thank you for remembering me... Justice, yes that would be a nice change, yet seems too far away to hope for.
I just want my kids to be happy and stable. I pray they get what they need. They want to come home, they want to be with their friends and to go to the same school they have gone to for the past 11 years.
Thank you for being so kind.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
A few days ago, Grandpa became upset, punched, kicked S17 and J'sS14. S recieved punches to the chest and face. Yesterday, Grandpa went after the boys with scissors. The boys escaped his reach and ran outside the house, then waited on one of the adults to come home, which happened to be Dick to handle Grandpa.
Now, there's a possibility they may be able to find a home for Grandpa before the Hearing, but isn't this neglect of both the children's safety but also Grandpa's too?
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Oh my gosh! Grandpa should definitely be in a home. I went through the Alzheimer's thing with my H's aunt-- she got violent, too. It is not unusual. Why is he not already in a medical setting? Is your X too cheap? Your son should refuse to continue to look after him.
No Anabelle, Dick's not too cheap, he's been going through his Father's savings/retirement, spending it as if it was his own. That's how he purchased a 1968 Mustang for S. I'm thinking he's afraid he'll be caught with his fingers in the cookie jar, OR he realizes without Grandpa's money, he's gonna go down the financial drain..... again.
Dick thinks taking Grandpa to the doctors once a week and giving him pills was going to be enough.... it's that ego thing again!
Right now, Dick is using my financial situation against me, he's also stated in court I'm the reason he had to file for bankruptcy. He's blamed me for his $30,000 in credit card charges, and said that I charged them up, then sent them to him to be paid.... like that could really happen. If the card is in my name, I'm stuck with it.
It was Jane and he who charged up things in my name, she used my name before the divorce was even in the courts. That's because when he moved closer to his job, and applied for cable/lights/water, he soon started receiving credit card offers in the mail, some with my name on them, because we were married, however, at that time the only credit card I had was my american express. Now, I don't have any credit cards, I only use my debit card.
He claims that I told him he never made enough money.... What I did say, was he had to learn to live within his budget, and spend less... he didn't need to make more, just learned he couldn't buy happiness!
He lives a twisted life... and maybe this is the reason it has taken him so long to hit rock bottom.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
In 1995, Dick had $50,000 in credit card debt, we took out a second mortgage to pay them off.
In 1997, Dick had another $20,000 in debt rung up in credit cards.
By 1999, Dick debt climbed to $50,000 in credit card debt, he took a second mortgage out on the farm.
By 2003 he began using credit cards in my name, by the end of the divorce, he had $30,000 in credit debt in my name and by the time 2006 came along, he had $30,000 in his own name..... that's when he went bankrupt.
I figure he probably has another $20,000 to $30,000 in credit card debt, along with a $380,000 mortgage.... he can't afford to pay child support, and the reason he is fighting so hard to keep the kids.... he needs the support from me if he is going to loose Grandpa's money. He has a second loan on his 2002 Chevy, car loans on his Miata, Harley, mini van, and the little car he bought for S when S lived with him last year, but Dick now drives that car because of the gas prices in Cali being so high. Yup, and he and Jane love to spend, and spend they have.
He paid me $500/month for two children, while making $150,000/yr (or more).... you can be guaranteed that the child support I pay will be near $700/month if he keeps the kids... you watch. I make around $21,000/year.... which I've been surviving on without creating any debt.
It's a travesty of justice, BT! I wish there was a way to prove that Jane was using your name --- stolen identity is a crime, I believe. There must be a way to make it clear to the court that you earn $21,000 and Dick $150,000 and that is not equal. How can this be justice? Paying $700 is almost half of what you earn. However, I have a friend who went through a similar sitch because she trusted her "Christian" H and he scr*wed her something awful. Ultimately, her children are all hearing the truth now in their adulthood because he lied to them about her. You, at least, won't have to worry about that.
I wish you had a lawyer who had gone to school with judge too. Who would he side with then?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
The credit card thing was years ago, it no longer bothers me.... oh, when I first discovered it, I was so angry I could spit nails, but now, it's just the past. I figure Jane and Dick have so many more problems now than those they once gave me.
As for the child support, Dick is trying to claim I haven't supported the children in the last six months.... well, just wait until the court sees my receipts! I've supported the children more finanically than Dick has, and I have proof.... and we don't need to get into the emotional support, cause we both know the answer to that one too.
Hope you are having a great weekend!
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Tomorrow morning at 9:00am I'll be in the court house again. Dick believes he is keeping the kids, and this hearing is to finalize things. The kids are supposed to speak to the Judge. I pray they are able to change the Judges minds so they can come home.
Hoping my life takes on a new direction.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
