Another quick question: What is this reference? Is Stonsy an author?
Steven Stosny is an author. He wrote a great book called 'Love Without Hurt'. It's about healing, for both sides, from anger, resentment, and abuse...through increased compassion for yourself and others. He said that 'compassion' is the lifeblood of families. I'm very familiar with this book, and I highly recommend it.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.