Did you experience any of what you learned about DBing coming back to you effortlessly while in this encounter?
I don't know. I was way more prepared for how things were going to go with this meeting. It is MUCH better than reacting to what is going on. Talking w/ Jodi helped, but it was good to have a gameplan. Afterwards I thought about stuff I wanted to say but forgot. The whole thing was a surreal experience, like I was watching myself from the outside. I just kept aiming for mysterious and confident.
I've been thinking about something we touched on earlier, that the WAS/MLC wants to have everything be right where she left it. I keep thinking about control. My W is doing things that she thinks will virtually guarantee a certain response from me. More control. It's the same with everything else, she's trying to ensure that I don't get to feel/respond/act because of her decisions. For example - with the A, I wasn't told until much much later. She knows that if I was told, I would be justified in my response whatever that might be. But by keeping it a secret, my responses are within a certain boundary. Does that make any sense?
She's pushing to get things signed right away. I'm not sure why, but this sets off some bells in my head. W is going around changing her name on lots of accounts. That part just kills me.
