Not sure if this is MLC but...

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H wants to sit down and budget together when he gets back from his training...

I sent him a spreadsheet for what he owes me from household bills. I told him I'm purposefully not including "mine" and "his". But he is worried about not having enough money to "live".

This is what I emailed to him along with the spreadsheet:


Here is the prelim spreadsheet... just based on stuff that has come out of my bank accounts so far. I have more at home in regards to pending bills, like *electric company* and next month's Cox bill.

Some things to consider:
*electric* and *gas* should even out a bit now that we have the AC problem taken care of.
I will call Cox and cancel the internet access this month so that will reduce the future bills by around $20 per person
ADT stopped charging my old card (the one that was replaced by OFCU) and didn't notify me until last week. We're back on track now with them charging my new card on a monthly basis.
*trash collection* is a quarterly payment
I didn't include any of "my" bills or "your" bills, I figure it's our own responsibility at this point to budget for our own stuff, while making sure the household needs are met first. I'm also not including groceries or anything that I buy for DD or the baby, since you feed DD too and I'm sure you'll be more than happy to pick up some diapers and formula once in a while... (well, about as happy as I am...)
I know today is payday, so if you have any money you can throw my way, please do... I know the end of the month with the mortgage is going to come up really fast.

Is it fair to tell him that:

A) What my "personal" bills are, my income, and my savings - are none of his business unless he should decide to become part of the family again.
B) The girls and I should not have to sacrifice, and I should not have to work to subsidize H's new "single" life.